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Queer style enthusiast. Androgynous human. LGBTQ+ traveller. Follow #gayyjay.

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“But...don’t you want to be more feminine?” ___________________________________ No, I don’t. Being biologically female doesn’t mean I should dress, act, or present in a certain way. My sexuality, who I sleep with, how I discern my own gender, none of this relates to what I wear. I wear the clothes I wear because I like them, and I like the way I look in them. Sometimes because they make me look more “masculine”, sometimes more “androgynous, more formal, less formal, older, whatever, but it’s because I like them. Because they make me feel good when I look in the mirror. Because for at least 15 years of my life, from learning to dress myself to actually figuring myself out, I didn’t wear anything that ever made me feel good. I just wore things that made me more “feminine”, things that made me fit in. ____________________________________ It’s okay to be different, it’s okay to wear the clothes you like, regardless of what gender they’re apparently for or who says you should or shouldn’t. Do it for you, you deserve to be happy. ____________________________________ #transformationtuesday brought to you by an actual question my dad asked me a couple of months ago (2012 on the left to 2018 on the right) As always, I write & post these things in the hope of helping someone else feel more comfortable & confident in their own skin (and clothes). My DMs are always open to anyone who wants to talk 💙🏳️‍🌈 . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Honestly? It’s been a weird few weeks & I’m just happy to be here. ______________________________________ On a partially related note, over the past weeks I’ve stopped drinking, in fact this weekend will make it a month since my last drink. Have you ever actively given up alcohol? For any reason...(mine is weight loss & my mental health) What was your experience? How did you negotiate traditionally alcohol focussed social situations? ______________________________________ Something I’ve found from this experience, and find every time I stop drinking, is the sheer lack of LGBTQ+ spaces which aren’t alcohol related. It’s so rare to be somewhere that has something other than just a nightclub or a bar as it’s “queer culture”. If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere that has that, please make sure you support it and take advantage of it. I can’t wait until I can be somewhere that does, or in a place in my life where I can create one for others. . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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🏳️‍🌈🌈⭐️IT’S PRIDE SEASON BABY!!!! 🏳️‍🌈🌈⭐️ literally my favourite time of the year. _________________________________ So, when @finchymonger DM’d me with the great idea of a LGBTQ+ retailer pride edition I just had to get this going straight away. So many massive corporations are getting involved in Pride now (which has negative & positive aspects to it but we’re not gonna debate that right now) which means that it’s super important to support actual LGBTQ+ people & businesses with your pride purchases (and in general too y’know). __________________________________ This list is just the tip of the iceberg, but has loads of awesome LGBTQ+ owned, run & supporting companies where you can order anything from underwear to tees to pins & so much more. Also to keep it from getting crazy I have limited it to companies who are selling either pride specific merch and/or rainbow items. There are so many more awesome LGBTQ+ retailers too (see my other lists) but this one is super focussed on loads of rainbow & pride specific stuff. Also I’m 100% sure I missed loads of very important people so if you have recommendations or you’d like to be included please DM me or comment below! 💙🌈🏳️‍🌈 _________________________________ ALSO: Don’t forget that your local pride will most likely sell their own merch to help fundraiser! For me that’s @londonlgbtpride & @bristolpride 🏳️‍🌈 definitely check out yours. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #lgbtclothing #prideclothing #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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One of the first ever LGBTQ+ owned, run & supporting brands I ever found was @flavnt_streetwear. I’d been following one of their founders (the wonderful @seethestarsablaze) on tumblr for a while when he posted a photo in his Pretty Boy tee & I couldn’t resist getting one shipped to the UK (cut to my mum seeing me in a photo of it on Facebook a few months later & texting me to tell me she “didn’t understand” - we’re still working on things). Flash forward 4 years & I’m feeling incredibly lucky to be able to work with the fantastic company which sparked my efforts to promote independent LGBTQ+ retailers. This tee sums me up perfectly 👌 Thankyou Chris @seethestarsablaze, Courtney @courtney__25 & @flavnt_streetwear for letting me work with you & for supporting our community. _________________________________________ Go check them out & use JAY10 for 10% off 🏳️‍🌈 @flavnt_streetwear . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #flavnt #flavntstreetwear #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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An on time #throwbackthursday & a late #womancrushwednesday @chloefairbro thank you for always listening to me & loving me. Nearly 4 years & I think I love you more every single day. I can’t wait for more adventures with you 🏳️‍🌈 . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #lgbtcouple #lgbtqcouple #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Saturday night outfit run through, feat. My absolute favourite shoes + shirt, and a lovely smooth pan from my new @djiglobal gimbal. Feeling fresshhhhh 📸 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Today, is International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Intersexism & Transphobia #IDAHOBIT2018. I spent a long time thinking what to write on this post. I thought about writing about how grateful I am to live in a place where I am safe to kiss my girlfriend in public, where the worst thing that can happen is probably a dirty look or a nasty comment. I thought about drawing as much attention as I could to the people who aren’t so lucky. The people living in fear, lying to themselves and the people around them in order to keep their freedom and their lives. I thought about writing about my own experiences, about others. But those things are, thankfully, all over the internet today. Brave people sharing their stories of pain, advocating for those who need our help, and illuminating the issues that need to be addressed. I encourage you to read as many of them as you can, to think hard about the issues they raise, and how you can make a difference. And for now, I decided to just say this, directly to the LGBTTQQIAAP community: ___________________________________________ You are not alone. We are your family, your community. Reach out, and we will help you. We will fight alongside you, and for you, if you cannot fight for yourself. You are valued, you are wanted, you are needed. I love you all. Be safe 🏳️‍🌈 . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Finally clearing up/cleaning out my old twitter account (aka the original Gay Jay) & found this absolute gem. For the record: I still don’t know but I’m still really (really) grateful. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Suns out, shorts on, but still wearing a hoody because this is England & it’s actually really not that warm #isweartogodimmoving 🇬🇧🏳️‍🌈💁‍♂️ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Having the absolute BEST birthday weekend. Thank you to everyone who commented or messaged so far, you’re all amazingly lovely. Extra special thankyou’s to @chloefairbro for spoiling me & to @rachyreid for getting me inappropriately drunk last night. Feeling grateful, lucky & excited for what 26 will bring. Let’s do this 🏳️‍🌈. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Early birthday celebrations, 26 come at me 🍾✨. My actual birthday is tomorrow, but I’m taking the weekend because why the fuck not 💁‍♂️ . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Celebrating (nearly) the end of a fucking beautiful week in southern Spain with my all time favourite humans by cracking open these two 🍾 in my @genderfreeworld 🍓shirt. Is there anything better? ________________________________________ If you’re like me & you’ve spent a huge part of your life trying to fit yourself into “men’s” button down shirts you really seriously need to go & see my friends over at @genderfreeworld. They’re making shirts for humans of all shapes & sizes that fit amazingly well (and have a lil button just across your chest to stop that annoying stretch gape situation, now that’s fucking clever). Use gayy_jay for 11% off yours & thank me later 💙🌈🏳️‍🌈🍓 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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I’m telling you, one day I’ll figure out how to spend every day of my life travelling the world. Until then, here’s to vacations in the sun ☀️🍾🌈 . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Love is Love 🏳️‍🌈 feat. @thisisourapparel ________________________________________ Visibility is so important. I grew up in a rural community, with no LGBTQ+ people that I knew of, and media representation (if there was any) perpetually focussed on the negative, fleeting or downright wrong nature of anything outside of heterosexuality & cisgendered people. Every single day it gives me so much joy to see people not only living their honest lives, but loving them. It just takes one person fighting to be who they are to make it easier for one person to do the same thing. In yesterday’s words from @captainkarlaslog “Our presence is important” 🏳️‍🌈. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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GOOD BLOODY MORNING 👋🇪🇸🌈👀🍑🔥🙋‍♂️🥂☀️🏳️‍🌈🇬🇧 _______________________________________ Continuing yesterday’s visibility theme, this morning I accidentally much surprised our Spanish neighbour (sorry dude) repping my rainbow @betty_baboo’s. Go & check them them out & use my code JAY for 15% off the comfiest boxers ever 😍. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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