A lot of you have asked me how it’s going travelling around South East Asia as an openly Queer/Non-Binary person...
I won’t lie & say it’s been 100% easy, I get stared at A LOT, which gets a exhausting at points, especially when you’re trying to figure out if it’s out of interest, confusion or hostility. Most people assume I’m Male when needing to gender me (bathrooms, hotel staff etc) which, although it gives me some additional protection in Asia, also scares me because it opens up the possibility of hostility if/when that person changes their view. I’ve spent hours avoiding changing into swimwear, or clothing that shows my body, simply because I’m afraid that someone will react badly.
However, there are a few significant things to bare in mind here...firstly that I experience the majority of these things everywhere, in the UK, US, Europe etc. Secondly, I have yet to face anything more than extended discomfort from stares, comments in other languages or concerns stemming from my own anxieties. I haven’t felt threatened or uncomfortable more than I do when in any other part of the world. I guess my point is this: Travelling as a person who is “different” is never 100% easy, whether you’re Non-Binary or Trans or androgynous or however you present, if it’s in anyway different from cisgender heterosexuality you will attract unwanted attention. Research where you are going throughly, take precautions when needed (@ has some excellent advice on dopesontheroad.com about LGBTQ+ travel safety) but most of all, don’t let a little discomfort stop you from living your life. It can be super scary to exist in a world where everything and everyone seems to look a certain way and you don’t, but don’t let it stop you. As long as you are keeping safe, you do you 💙
📸 - The Citadel in Hué taken by my 😍 @ .