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Jay

Queer, androgynous traveller. Heading for the adventure of a lifetime, 7 months in South East Asia, Indonesia & New Zealand ✈️ Next stop: Thailand 🇹🇭

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I’ve spent a lot of time recently thinking of how hard parts of this year have been. Feeling grateful to be here, to have gotten through the dark moments, and to be living in the light, even for now. ________________________________________ “What if all of this is towards your happiness? What if catastrophe is not as it seems - destructive in its dismantling of all we have made familiar - but creative, in nature’s way, always evolving towards the most harmonious design” - Dreamwork with Toko-Pa. _______________________________________ #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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The last week or so I’ve spent visiting old haunts in my home town, and re-exploring the places I grew up. Sometimes I find it hard to come back here, it’s full of good, bad & bittersweet memories. It’s a place where I spent so much of my time lying about who I am, to myself and to other people, and wishing I could be someone else. It feels simultaneously scary and healing to walk around in my favourite clothes, holding my girlfriends hand. It feels liberating to laugh when people can’t figure me out, and to smile back at the stares. For me, growing up has meant growing into myself. Growing into who I was always meant to be, and being that person no matter what. It gets better 🏳️‍🌈 ________________________________________ #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate #cotophoto

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Two weeks ago I had my last employed day before @chloefairbro & I take a 7 month break to travel in South East Asia (Thailand, Laos, Vietnam & Cambodia), then heading over to Singapore and Bali before spending a few months in New Zealand. It feels incredibly weird but also exciting to be at this stage in my life. I’m so proud to have saved enough, changed enough, and taken the plunge to give up our home and our jobs to do this. I can’t wait to share my experiences of being a non-binary/androgynous/queer person travelling around these countries. __________________________________________ Adulthood isn’t always about following a set line of achievements. Get a good job, buy a house, get married. None of it means anything if it doesn’t make you happy. Your achievements, your goals and your milestones are yours to make and yours to reach. Be proud of yourself no matter what. __________________________________________ #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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It’s been a whirlwind couple of months. So many of you have asked what the “big news” is and now thing are in place I can say finally that my girlfriend & I are, in just a few weeks, heading off on a 6 month (minimum) adventure around the world starting in Thailand & wandering into Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia, Singapore, Bali & New Zealand. We’ve both quit our jobs, moved out of our flat & are just finishing up on the “admin” side of it all before we head off ✈️ (so, many, injections). I’m so excited to start posting about my experiences in our various destinations as a member of the non binary/androgynous/LGBTQ+ & queer community. That said, I’ll be incredibly grateful for advice, hints & tips from any of you who have been to the places on our list (and those around it, the route is 100% flexible), looking at y’all @megcale, @lindscale, @onceuponajrny 💁‍♂️ ____________________________________ #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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I always feel so incredibly lucky to be able to work with the fantastic amount of LGBTQ+ owned, run & supporting brands around the world. Our community is so strengthened by role models, those people who channel their own time and energy into creating representation in a positive, everyday way. Fighting for LGBTQ+ rights isn’t just about pride parades once a year, it’s about being your honest self (where safe) every single day. It’s about unapologetically existing, and thriving. It gets better (I promise)💙🏳️‍🌈. Tee from the wonderful @handhclothinguk use GayyJay10 for 10% off 🙌. ______________________________________ I’ve been taking some time off the internet recently to focus all of my energy on an insanely busy and stressful few weeks. Its slowly coming to an end & there are SUPER exciting things on the horizon 💙✈️🍾. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Proud. Proud to be visible. Proud to be honest. Proud to be with my community. Proud to fight for my LGBTTQQIAAP family. Proud, every single day 🏳️‍🌈. . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Okay y’all, here it is: Some people have periods. Some girls do, some guys do, some non binary people do, some androgynous people do, some trans people do. The gender, presentation or perception of that person, is not important. You know what’s important? Creating safe spaces for those people to talk about periods, and comfortable clothing for anyone to wear during theirs. ________________________________________ A while back I came across the wonderful @pyramidseven & their project to create boxers for periods, not for gender. Feeling very lucky to be able to work with them & help support this message. . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #periods #pyramidseven #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Something about being somewhere that’s just so LGBTQ+ orientated just makes me happy. Brighton is full of pride flags, queer people from every walk of life, age group, background...it feels like home. Or maybe how I wish the whole world was. Grateful to spend some time here, with my favourite people. ___________________________________ Where feels like this to you? 💙🏳️‍🌈 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Honestly? It’s been a weird few weeks & I’m just happy to be here. ______________________________________ On a partially related note, over the past weeks I’ve stopped drinking, in fact this weekend will make it a month since my last drink. Have you ever actively given up alcohol? For any reason...(mine is weight loss & my mental health) What was your experience? How did you negotiate traditionally alcohol focussed social situations? ______________________________________ Something I’ve found from this experience, and find every time I stop drinking, is the sheer lack of LGBTQ+ spaces which aren’t alcohol related. It’s so rare to be somewhere that has something other than just a nightclub or a bar as it’s “queer culture”. If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere that has that, please make sure you support it and take advantage of it. I can’t wait until I can be somewhere that does, or in a place in my life where I can create one for others. . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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🏳️‍🌈🌈⭐️IT’S PRIDE SEASON BABY!!!! 🏳️‍🌈🌈⭐️ literally my favourite time of the year. _________________________________ So, when @finchymonger DM’d me with the great idea of a LGBTQ+ retailer pride edition I just had to get this going straight away. So many massive corporations are getting involved in Pride now (which has negative & positive aspects to it but we’re not gonna debate that right now) which means that it’s super important to support actual LGBTQ+ people & businesses with your pride purchases (and in general too y’know). __________________________________ This list is just the tip of the iceberg, but has loads of awesome LGBTQ+ owned, run & supporting companies where you can order anything from underwear to tees to pins & so much more. Also to keep it from getting crazy I have limited it to companies who are selling either pride specific merch and/or rainbow items. There are so many more awesome LGBTQ+ retailers too (see my other lists) but this one is super focussed on loads of rainbow & pride specific stuff. Also I’m 100% sure I missed loads of very important people so if you have recommendations or you’d like to be included please DM me or comment below! 💙🌈🏳️‍🌈 _________________________________ ALSO: Don’t forget that your local pride will most likely sell their own merch to help fundraiser! For me that’s @londonlgbtpride & @bristolpride 🏳️‍🌈 definitely check out yours. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #lgbtclothing #prideclothing #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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One of the first ever LGBTQ+ owned, run & supporting brands I ever found was @flavnt_streetwear. I’d been following one of their founders (the wonderful @seethestarsablaze) on tumblr for a while when he posted a photo in his Pretty Boy tee & I couldn’t resist getting one shipped to the UK (cut to my mum seeing me in a photo of it on Facebook a few months later & texting me to tell me she “didn’t understand” - we’re still working on things). Flash forward 4 years & I’m feeling incredibly lucky to be able to work with the fantastic company which sparked my efforts to promote independent LGBTQ+ retailers. This tee sums me up perfectly 👌 Thankyou Chris @seethestarsablaze, Courtney @courtney__25 & @flavnt_streetwear for letting me work with you & for supporting our community. _________________________________________ Go check them out & use JAY10 for 10% off 🏳️‍🌈 @flavnt_streetwear . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #flavnt #flavntstreetwear #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Saturday night outfit run through, feat. My absolute favourite shoes + shirt, and a lovely smooth pan from my new @djiglobal gimbal. Feeling fresshhhhh 📸 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Today, is International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Intersexism & Transphobia #IDAHOBIT2018. I spent a long time thinking what to write on this post. I thought about writing about how grateful I am to live in a place where I am safe to kiss my girlfriend in public, where the worst thing that can happen is probably a dirty look or a nasty comment. I thought about drawing as much attention as I could to the people who aren’t so lucky. The people living in fear, lying to themselves and the people around them in order to keep their freedom and their lives. I thought about writing about my own experiences, about others. But those things are, thankfully, all over the internet today. Brave people sharing their stories of pain, advocating for those who need our help, and illuminating the issues that need to be addressed. I encourage you to read as many of them as you can, to think hard about the issues they raise, and how you can make a difference. And for now, I decided to just say this, directly to the LGBTTQQIAAP community: ___________________________________________ You are not alone. We are your family, your community. Reach out, and we will help you. We will fight alongside you, and for you, if you cannot fight for yourself. You are valued, you are wanted, you are needed. I love you all. Be safe 🏳️‍🌈 . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Having the absolute BEST birthday weekend. Thank you to everyone who commented or messaged so far, you’re all amazingly lovely. Extra special thankyou’s to @chloefairbro for spoiling me & to @rachyreid for getting me inappropriately drunk last night. Feeling grateful, lucky & excited for what 26 will bring. Let’s do this 🏳️‍🌈. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Early birthday celebrations, 26 come at me 🍾✨. My actual birthday is tomorrow, but I’m taking the weekend because why the fuck not 💁‍♂️ . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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Celebrating (nearly) the end of a fucking beautiful week in southern Spain with my all time favourite humans by cracking open these two 🍾 in my @genderfreeworld 🍓shirt. Is there anything better? ________________________________________ If you’re like me & you’ve spent a huge part of your life trying to fit yourself into “men’s” button down shirts you really seriously need to go & see my friends over at @genderfreeworld. They’re making shirts for humans of all shapes & sizes that fit amazingly well (and have a lil button just across your chest to stop that annoying stretch gape situation, now that’s fucking clever). Use gayy_jay for 11% off yours & thank me later 💙🌈🏳️‍🌈🍓 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #gayyjay #androgynous #queer #androgyny #genderless #lesbianuk #outgirls #boyish #gaygirl #loveislove #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbtpride #lgbtcommunity #itgetsbetter #tomboystyle #androgynousstyle #queer #queerwomen #nonbinary #shorthairstyles #fuckhate

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