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Mx. AC Dumlao (they/them)

🙋🏻‍♂️ trans non-binary Fil-Am 🇵🇭 💥 advocate / educator / artist ✏️ fashion + self-care + mental health 👀 ft @broadly @autostraddle @allure & more 👇🏽

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🌈 Grateful for @guerrerotabares’ invitation to attend #BushwickPride with @maketheroadny ✊🏽 // In Mateo’s words: “But what’s #Bushwick Pride? It’s a local community pride in Bushwick that has been happening over the past 13 years to push back against gentrification and call out the violence inflicted by the cystem on BIPoC Trasngender, gender non-conforming and queer communities.” // Looking forward to the 14th!! xx AC #menswearselfcare

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I think someone wants their own Instagram! 🐈 Want more Ube and Boba goodness? Catch them in my instastories! #bobareillydumlao #ubereillydumlao #ubeandboba #catsofinstagram #instacats

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#TBT ⌛️ // May 2017 // Yr pal was featured in "Qwear Crushes: 50 Queer + GNC Instagrammers to Follow for Fashion Inspo." 🤗 I've loved QWear ever since being a baby dyke in college, so getting on this list was a total honor. Happy Thursday, y'all! // 📷 photo by @paulochun for @nbcasianamerica // 🧥 🧢 jacket + hat: @pstgear 🇵🇭 // #Throwback #ThrowbackThursday #menswearselfcare

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A post-therapy selfie to add to the collection! ⚡️ PS: that bag is full of strawberries and bananas! Trying to eat fruit more and it’s been the best. Anything that doesn’t get eaten this week get chopped up and frozen for smoothies! Working on being intentional about what I put in my body — not for a waist line — but for me. #menswearselfcare

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Thank you qts who joined me on live video!! I answered questions about: 🔸how to cope with feeling overwhelmed, 🔸keeping on top of projects with Google Calendar (and ways to improve), 🔸the awful legislation banning queer couples from adopting, 🔸self-care, 🔸depression, 🔸and MORE!! Missed my Q&A? It’s in my stories for the next 24 hours (til 7 pm Wednesday 7/18). Have a question you wanna ask?! DM me or comment below!! 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽

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tbh #MEMEMONDAY is mostly for me 🙈 // I usually do choose gender themed meme but HEY who else needs love and support today?? Inspired by all of Nia’s positivity 🙋🏻‍♂️😌 // #menswearselfcare @femme4memes_

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The corniest dad, at your service! 👨🏻 // #menswearselfcare

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Happy #InternationalNonbinaryDay to all of my enby siblings near and far! 🍃You are loved.🍃You are seen. 🍃You are valid. 🍃Fun fact: the white stripe on the trans flag represents us! xo AC (they/them) // enby advocate/educator/artist // #NonBinaryDay #menswearselfcare

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😱 Whoa! Made it into the @nymag insta story on #fridaythe13thtattoo day today! THANK YOU to owner @daredevilmichelle 💪🏻 for #tattooing both me and my Caitlin. It was an honor! 😍 We will be back for the next one... already on my calendar: Sept. 13, 💥2019💥! 🗓 $13 tattoos? Can’t be beat! // Did you get a tattoo today? Tag me!! 🙋🏻‍♂️ I wanna see!! // @daredeviltattoo #ddft13 #tattoo #chinatown #menswearselfcare

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#TBT to being a baby dyke circa 2012. Oh AC, you had a long way to go... 👶🏻 // #menswearselfcare #throwbackthursday

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Could use some help making it through to payday on Friday— even $1 from you (yes you) adds up! Venmo: callmethey / Ca$h: $mxacdumlao 🌹 thank you in advance. /////// What day of the week is it? Why it’s #MEMEMONDAY! // Please don’t revoke my queer card but it’s v sweaty and I really want it to be Fall so I know how to dress from the outside to the subway to the office feat. All My Blazers 😬 // #menswearselfcare #meme #memes // via @transboymemes original tweet: @/0x424c41434b on Twitter 🐦

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Feeling like the Brown enby @antoni on this fine Sunday afternoon 🤓 // #menswearselfcare #bandanas4ever

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Who is that enby I see? 🎶 // #menswearselfcare #mulan4ever

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EVERY BODY IS A BEACH BODY! ☀️ #menswearselfcare

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Growing up I picked apart my face: nose too wide, too flat, face too round, too brown, too much hair, acne, scars. So much judgment that weighed upon me. When I came (and continue to come) into consciousness that White Euro Beauty standards wrote the book to my self-shame, it helped free me to really look at my face, and to love it. // I shared this in my story during my original post but what’s additionally novel about this is that I’m not wearing glasses. I’ve told myself stories that I’m only attractive with glasses, that I look “off” without them. I’m unlearning these lies. These things take time. I have good days and bad days. But my desirability does not define my worth. The person that I want to be most attracted to me mind, body, and soul is, well, me. // #menswearselfcare

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"I am not included within the pale of this glorious anniversary! Your high independence only reveals the immeasurable distance between us. The blessings in which you this day rejoice are not enjoyed in common. The rich inheritance of justice, liberty, prosperity, and independence bequeathed by your fathers is shared by you, not by me. The sunlight that brought life and healing to you has brought stripes and death to me. This Fourth of July is yours, not mine. You may rejoice, I must mourn." - Frederick Douglass, “The Meaning of July Fourth for the Negro” Speech, 7/5/1852

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This is my last photo (for now!) from this set // Currently on the train back from “staycation” and feeling a mixture of feelings— did I relax “enough?” (What does that even mean?) Did I have a “real” vacation if I “only” went a couple of hours away from Brooklyn? I feel dread about responsibilities and to-dos. But I’m trying to breathe and be here and only here. // Only through deliberate self-care can I sustain myself to play the long game of an advocate and educator’s life. I deserve time off even if it’s not to a far of place. I’m lucky to be able to take time off at all. I’m reminding myself of all this. // pics are from @lannyfrank’s project ⭐️EVERY #WARDROBE AN IDENTITY⭐️, focused on queer & trans Asian folks and their #fashion which I am hoping you have checked out by now!! // More on my feed and at everywardrobeanidentity.com - 💥LINK IN BIO!💥 Check it out on Desktop for even more interactive goodness! // #menswearselfcare // #hatgame #snapback #flatbrim #closetgoals #wardrobeessentials

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