Today we had our annual visit from two of my favorite people in the world, Phil Ouellette and Scott Weldon of San Diego, CA. It was these two wonderful fellows who made it possible for me to spend between 3-6 months of the year subletting an apartment in San Francisco from 1997-2002. My Eddie would stay home and we'd talk on the phone every day, but it was Scott and Phil who were there in SF to help me, companion me, and be there for me and in any way I needed. Scott and I volunteered at a soup kitchen together, Phil fed me his gourmet meals, we went to the ballet and symphony, and they would always pick me up at the Oakland train station when I arrived in town from Detroit. Whenever I needed to list my "next of kin" in San Francisco, I always named Phil and Scott. They truly are family to both me and to Eddie. Both of us are eternally grateful for everything they have done for us.
So once a year when they are in town to visit family, we get together. Today was that day! Not only did we talk and listen to one another for hours, but Eddie played a little piano and we all sang. I always feel more myself after having been with Scott and Phil. They are two of the kindest, most generous spirited persons I've ever met. If you go to my website, www.patricialaydorsey.com, check out the portfolio "Just Another Married Couple." I stayed with Phil and Scott for two weeks in 2010 shortly after they had gotten legally married after having lived together for 20 years. They generously opened their hearts and their home to me and my camera so I could show the day-to-day lives of a gay married couple like Scott and Phil. I like to think this project has helped to change attitudes, maybe even those of President Barack Obama who shortly after receiving a copy of my self-published book, came out publicly in favor of legalizing same-sex marriage.