It's polite to never ask a woman her age they say.
It's a strange, probing question to ask.
How long have you been on the planet? - is this a deep and meaningful conversation topic?
At school you want to be older than, better than, stronger than...
But post 16/18/21 is it still relevant?
Does your age imply your capabilities?
Our skills and confidence, experience and journeys make us who we are.
Our age does nothing to increase these. .
Is it because in our society, in our youth oriented culture, as women, and also today men, we are afraid to be seen as old and therefore less valuable?
Is it that we are all too aware in sharing our age we run the risk of being pigeonholed, judged, rejected, compartmentalised negatively, on the scrap heap of life?
Maybe.. Chances are in choosing to answer the question we will likely challenge expectations. Rarely does anyone ' look their age'. I know I'm hopeless at guessing!
When we say "She looks good for her age" is that a compliment?
Doesn't it really translate as ' based on my experience, expectations and conditioning you don't look like you should' ?
Seems pretty darn rude to me. .
My grandmother said to me " Never tell anyone your age!" Clearly she'd experienced a negative judgement!
I get it. Live it.
I'm very familiar with the question and don't seem to have ever fitted into how I 'should'. It is completely irrelevant to me.
I'm thrilled to meet you regardless and it will NEVER be an issue for me. You're incredible as you. .
We learn by experience.
As women we experience judgement continually throughout our lives.
We are used to fitting ourselves into the norm so that we are acceptable - until we no longer choose to do so.
Until we decide to be ourselves.
Until we know our own worth and don't have any desire to be put on a box.
The world is changing fast.
Very soon the global population will have more people over 60 than under.
This is the first time this has ever happened.
Let's see how relevant the question is then.