I know, I know, selfish is a bad word. I agree when you look at the traditional definition of it. .
If you’re anything like me, you have a million things on your to do list EVERY SINGLE DAY. I used to get so overwhelmed by my life that I would lie in bed for hours before falling asleep making mental to do lists and having anxiety over getting it all done. And it wasn’t even morning yet! I would put my husband, kids, work, house even my CAR above my own needs, and it started to show. I was grumpy, quick to anger, tired, and just overall NOT happy. And if mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. .
I sat down and looked at why I thought I was feeling this way. I didn’t even know who I was anymore. When people asked me my hobbies, I couldn’t even tell them! That was not the kind of life I wanted to live. So, I just started trying things. Little things throughout the day. Going for a walk, listening to an e-book, calling my mom or a friend, lighting candles, practicing gratitude or just sitting in my bedroom all alone! My mood has gotten better and in return, the whole family feels it.
Things that helped me:
I started putting myself on my to-do list. I would literally schedule out self care time in my planner and I never let myself break that promise.
I talked to my husband and told him my plan. His agreement that I needed to take care of myself also kept me from backing out if i was too tired or unmotivated to do whatever I was going to do.
I decided to say yes to new things. I say yes to playdates (when I can), pedicures with my bestie, attempts at yoga and even simple things like a new candle. Don’t let your own fears of not knowing what you like keep you from trying!
You are important and worthy of being taken care of! Your whole family will thank you for it!