I use to hate some of my charecteristics (per others: my flaws) and many of my life moments because it was rough and dirty at times. I had to be gritty and gritty isn't always beautiful. Its definetly not perfect!
I learned hard lessons but the biggest one was accepting 'those flaws': the childhood scars, where I came from and grew up, the rare eosinophillic illness and all that entails, the moments that crush me as a nurse, and the rollercoaster ride military spouses don't always enjoy. Its not always fun, honeymoons, and romance, I promise!. I realized that these moments make me grow. I realized these experiences help me help others. I realized these journeys taught me to live with so much more passion, love so much more, be more compassionate, to always count blessings and not trials, embrace change, and see opportunities hidden in the muck.
I learned to slap that smile on my face even if I have to cry or feel angry first. Once that smile is on, I get gritty, get back up, and push on. It feels so much better once you get to that point where you can say, 'I overcame this and accomplished that'. My advice to you: Embrace those unique charecteristics and stories. Use them to inspire and lift others up when they have fallen in the mud. Even if you help just 1 other person with your unique asset, you changed the world for the better!