Do you tend to beat yourself up when you don’t meet all of your goals or do you tend to forgive yourself?
I beat myself up, hard. It’s one of my worst traits.
It’s really common for people with anxiety to be perfectionists and have unrealistic goals, and I’m not exception. I have higher expectations for myself than anyone else does. And, when I don’t meet them? Whew, all bets are off.
I feel angry, frustrated, sad, disappointed—all directed at myself. Not a very nice way to treat myself, is it?
The funny thing is I bet you’re thinking, Don’t be so hard on yourself! I bet you did your best! You were trying and that’s all that matters!
The truth is, that’s what we tend to say to our friends, but we rarely use this language to talk to ourselves. Why? Isn’t it just as true for us?
I did my best this weekend. I was sick and I listened to my body and rested. When I wanted to eat junk food, I made myself healthy food instead to boost my immune system. I didn’t have the energy to do hardcore workouts, but I kept trying and walked my dog Saturday and Sunday. I’m allowed grace. I’m allowed to give grace to MYSELF.
You’re allowed to give yourself grace, too. .