Best way to start the weekend 😍
In case you haven’t noticed, Tommy is one for routines. He likes the predictability, the order, knowing how things are going to work.
There’s been some changes and disruption lately, some he’s struggled with, and some he’s coped really well with.
He has two new carers for a few hours a week, and he’s taken to them both brilliantly. He also goes to after school club on a Friday now, which he also loves.
The main challenge has come from the changeovers. It doesn’t matter who it is, me dropping him to his mum’s, one of his carer’s dropping him to me, he just refuses to let that person in the house. If it doesn’t happen instantly his heart pounds like it’s going to explode, he starts to shake, and just can’t process what’s going on.
He’s happy to do it when someone comes to pick him up, and they can stay as long as they want, but drop offs have to be instant and the other person made to leave.
Even when I take him to my parent’s house now, I used to have to sneak out whilst he’d be eating dinner, now he just wants me out of the door as soon as we arrive.
If we bump into someone who looks after him in the street (or ever looked after him) he immediately starts to scream, confused, thinking it means they’re taking him when they’re not supposed to be.
And that’s ok, it makes sense, it’s just something we have to figure out and work on. The more I think about it the more I have to admire just how well he does cope with all the upheaval he’s had in his life over the years.
So yesterday, and today he’s been read a social story about what his day is going to be like. How he’s going to go to club, then be picked up by his carer, then go in the car for food, then come home, and be brought in by her.
I made sure I was out of the house when they arrived and she brought him in instead. He raced around the house looking for me, but settled quickly and decided to play instead.
When I got home he made her leave the minute I arrived, but it was much better than last week. Small adaptions, and small steps of progress.
That’s what we have to do as parents. Make adaptions to account our kid’s needs, and try to make it work for everyone ❤️