She says thank you next, I say shukriya, dafa hoja.
Hey Hey, it’s cuffing season so let’s talk about love! In the desi community, with our Bollywood movies and social constructs, the idea of “the one” is so romanticized and glorified. Breakups, divorces, separations are all seen as taboo. Then, of course, there is“log kya kahenge.” Our movies show how a girl and boy fall in love on the first try and that’s it, their first love is the one. Then we have the older generations who were arranged to get married and have been married since then for 80 years and expect the upcoming generations to continue this tradition. I have seen so many couples confine themselves into this idea. The infatuation with a Bollywood romance, societal pressure, family expectations, and so many other factors cause people to stay in such unhealthy, toxic relationships where they clearly are not happy. We’re all human, we all need and crave love and happiness and finding both is such a process, both of self-understanding and self-growth. A concept as abstract as love can’t be understood on the first try, sometimes that is the case, but most times it’s not and it’s important to understand that, it’s important to step out of these artificial boundaries and put your self care, love, respect above it all. Every relationship simply becomes a stepping stone and learning opportunity to better understand YOUR idea and want of love, but until then, thank you, next.