How perfectly does this statement capture the feeling you get when you see someone who represents all you want to be? You compare and despair.
It’s painful. We know it’s counterproductive but it’s like an involuntary movement. We can’t control it.
I did some research into how to overcome Compare and Despair syndrome, and found people who don’t compare themselves to others and focus on doing their own thing are often happier.
Here’s some quick tips to drop the compare and lose the despair.
1. Pinpoint Envy
What does “Rachel” have that you want? Is it her commitment to creativity? Her inspiring yoga practice? Your despair may indicate what you want in your own life.
2. Be grateful
Write down all the ways you’re killing it right now. It’s hard to wish you had someone else’s life when you’re grateful to have your own.
3. Log off
Step away from your device. That’s right. Sometimes we compare and despair because we’re focusing all our energy on people’s highlights reel instead of real life.
Wishing you a despair-free day x
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