Let’s pretend we’re cups for a second, full cups.
People see a full cup and begin to take sips and swallows here and there. Even circumstances can begin to drain your cup. It doesn’t seem like much at first, but then it adds up. Eventually, people begin to expect you to give to them emotionally, spiritually, or physically. It happens, it’s not malicious, people naturally take. We’re constantly stuck in a cycle of trying to fill up our cups again and again to maintain our fullness. Our fullness, meaning our joy, energy, and life.
If you’re like me, you’ll burn out of this cycle of trying to please everyone or participate and/or aide situations. Real talk, for people-pleasers like me, you will disappoint people, and you can’t do it all. And you know what? That’s okay! Amazing even, because people let’s be real, nobody’s perfect. We’re all beautifully flawed human beings.
A little over two years ago, I told myself I’d stop letting people take advantage of me and my heart. I decided to not be a people pleaser, and just please God to the best of my humanly-flawed ability. I figured, if I keep my focus (to please God), everything else around me would fall into place. (Proverbs 16:7) The next thing I did was a process: I took small initiatives to change my circumstances.
Two years seems like a long time, but it’s the small choices I made to keep my cup full that now makes my life feel at peace. I’m grateful to be where I am now vs before. Take care of yourself, you’re the only you there is, and when you are your best self, magical things happen. 🤷🏻♀️