Thinking about birth as much as I do leads me to also think about loss and trauma and even death quite a bit. There is often loss during birth, even when your baby is healthy at the end of it and especially when they are not. If your birth didn’t go according to your birth plan, if you didn’t even know you could have made a birth plan, if your pregnancy ended in miscarriage, if you had your heart set on something happening or not happening during your birth and your expectation was not met, if your labor and birth was okay, but postpartum depression clouded those first days or weeks or months with your baby...I see you.* Your experience and your emotions are valid and valuable for the rest of us to know and see. This space on the internet where we talk about empowering women around birth, where we share images of these sacred moments that really are truly beautiful and inspiring (but might not share the whole of it)—I have to believe there is space for you here too and I’m ready to show up and help make room if it doesn’t feel like that space exists yet.. •••
*this list is by no means extensive and doesn’t even include things like your baby being born sick or the struggle some people have conceiving in the first place. There are so so so many different struggles and pain surrounding this issue whatever yours is—it’s there too.