“We meet people for a reason”.
Do you believe it?
I’ve never really agreed with this statement. My life has always been pretty chaotic, and I’ve always thought of my encounters as something accidental, often undesired - and, with hindsight, definitely not good for me.
I wasn't in control.
Until... lately, when I’ve been meeting a different kind of people.
People helping me accept who I am, and re-discover important parts of myself that I had buried deep down just because I was too ashamed of accepting them.
People having a positive impact on my life, and pushing me, with their love and affection, to love myself more.
But the people around me aren’t changing just because of a destiny “magically” smiling at me and deciding that now it’s my turn.
They are changing because, first, I started to change. I decided I wanted to be better and love myself more. And consequently, I started to believe I deserved better.
I basically prepared myself to embrace these people into my life.
So here they are, slowly coming into my life, exactly the ones I needed, at the right place, the right time, allowing me to be myself without any judgment.
It’s when you meet these ”right” people that you understand you are on the ”right” path.
And if you keep going and never look back - also if it's tempting to look back, sometimes it will still look like the easiest solution - you will keep meeting more and more of them.
Now that I’m creating a path to become a better person, I consequently accept in my life only who can fit this path.
I’m in control. I can discern better. I can see more clearly if someone can be part of “my people” or not.
I know better who I am, and so who I want in my life.
All the toxic people of the past were in my life because I was asking for them with my negative thinking.
I was attracting them. They were what I thought I deserved.
Now I believe we do meet people for a reason. But the reason is not just destiny. The reason is US and our behaviors.
The people we meet are like signs, in the sense that they are like mirrors.
They do nothing but showing us the amount of love and affection we think we deserve in our life.