WHEN SOMEBODY SAYS, "STOP!" I WILL STOP.
This afternoon, on my way out doing my regular rounds, I was stopped by a colleague, saying, "take, you can have him for an hour!" She handed me a 5 year old boy who has been giving her some issues during the day and she just wanted someone else to talk to him.
For the purpose of confidentiality, I will name the boy, Sammy.
Sammy, has been putting up some difficult behaviours and this day, my colleague didn't just want to deal with it anymore.
So here I was with Sammy, following me around as I completed by tasks and we finally ended up in my office.
So, decided to pull out the collaborative problem-solving tool from my behaviour management toolkit.😊 It so happened that another child was in a push cart, and Sammy just started pushing the boy very fast without being asked to. The boy being pushed kept shouting, *stop! stop!!* but Sammy just wouldn't stop!
So when we got seated in my office and I asked Sammy what happened, he told me, "I didn't know he didn't want me to push him." Okay, I said. So when you were pushing him, what did he say?
He said, Stop!
Does that mean, he didn't want you to push him?
Yes, but I just wanted to help him move faster.
I understand your wanting to help him move faster. I also like helping people too sometimes and that is a good thing. *He nodded.* But sometimes when we want to help someone, the person might not need our help and they may say, 'No or Stop'. When someone says STOP, what should you do? I asked. He said, 'I will stop.' He walked out of my office having learnt to stop, when someone says STOP!. So I asked him to tell me what he has decided. He said, "When someone says, STOP! I will STOP!
Let's share our own experiences, on the group from time to time on how we have helped manage a behaviour and taught a skill!😊 *Enjoy the rest of your day!*🖒 .