I got a new question to yesterday's post: “if children are supposed to explore on their own, - then what’s the role of the parent?”. Again, children are born with one purpose: to learn about the world. Their brain are under constant learning, in contrast to adults who actively need to focus. They have some instincts, but no knowledge - a baby thinks it can crawl into the thin air. But our direse to explore makes us discover the link between cause and effect. We test our knowledge, and what stands the test is considered to be worth keeping. It can be that dancing is fun, or that some people are less worth than us. Perceptions that established early, are rarely revalued and tends to transfer even to the next generation. The parent plays a big part in society.. The role: to learn the child how to meet their own individual needs. The foundation of education is to learn how to think, not to know facts. It's not about serving your child with the answers, is to teach it how to find answers. It's not about transferring what you know, but to show alternatives - so that the child can develop their own opinion and not just become your copy. To create possibilities, not to restrict. Only because I thought adults diminished me as a child, doesn’t mean my kids will feel that - UNLESS I show them that. But then, it would be me who diminish my kids, since I’d see them as being like me and not being better than my faults. A parent has to be a role model, not an overseer.
Your role is to accept the child for what it is, not for what you think it should be.To accept a child unconditionally is hard for one who can't accept oneself unconditionally. What do you have to do first, before you deserve your own love? It’s impossible to feel loved/accepted for who you are, if there're strings attached.
Your child is not your chance to get your own life right, to accomplish what you couldn’t. It's not about that little child within, but about a child who shares your longing: to bee seen for who it is they truly are.
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