So what does it sound like when you really get to the core of your heart?
It starts with words like;
“I feel hurt,” “I feel sad.” “I feel afraid.” “I feel overwhelmed.” “I feel confused.” It never sounds like blame or revenge. Even towards ourselves, it never sounds like judgement. It never tells other people what to do. It is self-responsible.
It says, “This happened to me. And this is how I feel.” Sometimes, it is just in taking the time to honor and FEEL the feeling, that we find a little more space, a little more freedom, a little more room for clarity, a little more room for vulnerability with ourselves, AND the people we love.
So then, instead of going to your husband and saying,
“Why didn’t you do this?!” or “What were you thinking when you did that?!” You will say,
“Hey, I just need someone to listen to me for a minute. Can you do that for me? This happened. And you know, I really felt afraid.” THIS is what it sounds like when you SPEAK, from the core of your heart.
What do you notice in these differences? What objections come up in your mind around having this kind of heart-centered conversation? Why are you not doing this already? Truly, I want to hear from you.