He soothes my soul. I’ve been experiencing postpartum anxiety this time around and I’m so grateful for his partnership in this season. I really don’t love labeling this as a “disorder” because it feels as though it’s an understandable experience holding space for everything I am all at once all the time. Having a third baby has taken its toll on our sense of balance and space. Where I used to be able to sit quietly by myself for short periods with two, with the third there are no breaks unless there is physically someone else watching my kids. I’ve found ways to get moments to myself here and there and that helps, but we are still navigating this new life as a family of 5. This man shows up in so many ways, in being a hands on father, showing up for counseling vulnerable and ready to work, building his career and business in the spirit of supporting his community in health and wellness. As a strong and motivated woman, I feel as though there is a societal expectation that I can and should be able to hold myself up by myself. The truth is, without him I don’t know where I would be. Now this goes both ways- I am 100% there for him through his challenges as well. It’s a lot. It’s a lot of beautiful and a lot to navigate. So grateful to do it together.
Things that help me with my anxiety:
- exercise: I almost immediately feel relief after I move my body. It doesn’t matter how (yoga, weights, running), just moving makes a big difference.
- cutting alcohol and sugar: my go to after a challenging day is a glass of wine with dinner. I’ve started to notice how this affects my sleep and when I cut out even just the one glass, I feel much better. - CBD oil: this supplement is a new addition to my husband’s practice and has been really helpful in helping me stay grounded. Ask your healthcare provider about it. - Counseling: talking with someone and learning new techniques in my self talk is vital. As a couple, to have someone help us navigate the external pressures that are pulsing through our lives has kept us in a place of love versus tension.
If you’re experiencing PPA or PPD, know that you aren’t alone and there are things you can to to help manage it.