Digging my new bracelet and the new mantra I will now repeat to myself every day.
I was listening to an Ed Mylett podcast in my car on my way to work this morning, and one thing he said really stuck with me. “If you are emotionally dependent upon other people’s approval, you will always be unhappy.” I know I’ve experienced this need for approval and validation so so so many times in my life. To the point where it has affected big decisions in my life, and even caused me discomfort and pain.
I remember this time in AP math class senior year of high school. There were some other students discussing colleges and where they were going, and someone started making fun of the school that I was hoping to be accepted to. He had no idea I was applying to this school, so he wasn’t saying it to upset me, but it did. I was so affected by this person’s opinion, I got up in class and ran to the bathroom to cry. It actually was a contributing factor as to why I quit AP math senior year.
Why the hell did I care so much about this person’s opinion of this school that I wasn’t even at yet; I had just applied(and didn’t even end up attending)? Someone that wasn’t even my friend, that I no longer keep in touch with?
It can be debilitating living your life soooooo worried about what other people think, that you forget that everything you need is already inside you. The only thing that matters is your opinion of you, and the daily conversations you have with yourself. Are you constantly asking yourself if other people will judge what you do or say? Is life happening TO you or FOR you? Because this is your life and you weren’t created to please everyone else, but to serve your own purpose with your individual and unique talents.