To cultivate calm despite what is going on on the outside is a great superpower. The news is that we can learn how to do this. It might not be our default setting but once we make it so, the of our life will greatly improve. Learning to remain calm no matter what the outside circumstances are can start by refocusing the mind from what is upsetting it towards what you are grateful for. It’s usually the voice of the ego that riles us up, telling us that we shouldn’t let someone treat us a certain way for example.
Our can get us into trouble and put us in an unnecessary state of stress. If you can learn to take a step back, to create just a small space between the external circumstance and your reaction to it, you can start observing yourself and become more objective. You can ask yourself in a fraction of a second if it’s really worth getting upset over something or if there are more benefits to remaining calm.
Start today by noticing when your sense of calm escapes you. It probably happens multiple times a day so you will have plenty of occasions. When it does, tell yourself that you have the choice to remain calm.
Try it out.