This was my Day 1 to getting back on track, and there are no perky smiles here. 👊😒 Day 1 and I have just ONE thing to say to every woman alive. STOP waiting for someone else to determine whether or not you are going to be happy. As women, I see it everywhere. We need a man in order to feel fulfilled or we blame our men for not fullfilling our needs enough. Hold the ef up a second and take responsibility for your own needs. If I have learned ANYTHING in this life.. It's TAKE CARE OF YOUR DAMN SELF.
Whether you are married, dating, or single, whether you have kids, your s/o has kids, or you have furbabies, whether your family is your support system or they discourage you from trying new things because it isn't something THEY would try.. (Like that's a legit reason why we shouldn' try it for ourself 👏😂 .. 🙄) There is only ONE PERSON responsible for taking care of you. For making sure your needs are being met. Just one. Not your mom. Not your husband. Not ANYBODY'S responsibility to make your happiness a priority.
The only person who should prioritize whether or not your emotionally nurtured, your mentally growing, you are physically confident, and your needs are being met, is yourself. I'm not saying the people around you don't play a part in it. For sure. I make a point of announcing to my husband when he is making me feel unheard or whatever. But I can't blame him when I realize that my mind, soul, and body isn't being heard. That part is all mine. Only I can nurture that.
So if you suddenly feel like you are not who you want to be.. Chances are it's because you have forgotten how to take care yourself and started worrying about being who everyone else wants/needs you to be. Whatever way you decide to provide self care, it doesn't matter. Sometimes I eat chocolate and polish my nails in SILENCE. If it fills my cup, so what. Sometimes I pick up my weights, go to my bedroom, shut the door, and give my workout all I've got so that nobody gets punched in the face. If that fills my cup, so what. Sometimes exercise is a great way to get in shape and sometimes that shit is straight THERAPY. Just fill the damn cup. ✌