Attachment is not very easy to define.... “A highly skilled clinical psychologist, when asked to define attachment, replied, "I don't know, but I know it when I see it!"
Attachment has a multitude of meanings and implications, but its first and most important aspect involves emotion.
Human feelings about attachment are among our most poignant and powerful, disturbing and gratifying motional experiences. 🔸Would you agree that love, devotion, grief, mourning, jealousy, and anxiety are all connected to attachment?💭 Attachment is not just a matter of our personal emotional experiences, though. In addition to attachment emotions, we have 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬.
These are our beliefs and ways of thinking about relationships with other people.
They can include not only our own individual relationships but also what we expect others to think and experience, even about relationships in which we play no role ourselves. (Society at its best 😅🤭). Attachment emotions and thoughts combine to form an 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞 (IWM - will create a post on this) of emotional and social relationships, a set of feelings, memories, ideas, and expectations about people's interpersonal attitudes and actions.
Adults may or may not want to talk about their attachment thoughts and emotions, and young children may not have the ability to do so. Much of what we know as child educators about attachment; comes from the study of attachment behaviour. 2/3