Too many couples fight about the action...he was late, she nags, he yells, she always puts her work first, he’s on his phone too much, she’s so messy, he’s easily angered, she’s too controlling, he’s so sarcastic.... I could go on and on here. Hang with me for a minute while I explain. If your husband is late and promised he’d be home in time for dinner and didn’t text or call to let you know, normally couples fight about him being late. But the real thing to focus on is the feeling that was caused by him being late and not calling. Most likely his wife felt disrespected or unimportant...maybe even fearful that something happened to him. Let me give another example. If your wife hasn’t initiated sex in months, sex isn’t the issue. It’s not the thing to fight about. It’s the fact that her husband probably feels not desired, ignored or even rejected. So, the next time there’s an issue in your marriage, focus in what your spouse is feeling and less about the action. 👉🏼 I understand this is a huge concept for many couples and this is why we created Naked Conversations. These are the tools and techniques you learn and we walk you through so you can overcome your biggest arguments and leave the conversation feeling validated and understood.