Oh it’s the most Monday kinda Monday. Adulthood can be hard to balance sometimes, no? The noise of responsibility can be overwhelming. For me, it feels very visceral. My whole body likes to stage a protest, fish curl around themselves in my stomach at all times, and I constantly feel like I’m walking on marbles, daring gravity to pull me down. It’s very dramatic (obvi). What I’ve found to be really helpful when life starts to feel like this is to give myself exactly what I’ve earned. Like, this burn out? I worked my ass off for it. I, like lots of other humans, work full time, am a full time graduate student, a friend to lots of people, a (very lucky) working writer and photographer, and have all the responsibilities of being a homeowner and dog mom. I’d be worried if I didn’t occasionally feel friggin tired, dudes. So, how do we cope and rally? It’s going to vary for each of us, but here’s what I find to be helpful: 1. Listen to our bodies. Like, for real. If something hurts or is asking for attention, address it. Don’t pretend it isn’t happening because you don’t have time. 2. Call it what it is! Burnout is burnout, babes. It doesn’t mean anything about who you are! It happens. 3. Ask for help. A very tricky ask if you’re like me, but an important one. We can’t do everything and even if it feels like we have to, we never have to do it alone. 4. Breathe, babe. Inhale and exhale like you mean it. Don’t worry about whether or not your breath is deep or good enough (I see you, fellow perfectionists). Just keep doing it. And finally, 5. Remember that our value as human beings isn’t intrinsically based on how productive we are (or aren’t). We don’t have to carry the weight of the world simply to prove that we deserve to belong.
What have you found to be helpful with stress/overwhelm/burnout?