I’ve received countless messages lately. ‚Oh, well! You did everything right moving to Bali, your photos look phenomenal!‘ ‚You seem to have settled down just fine!‘ The photos I took were actually shot within 50m around my house, because I haven’t found the time to cruise around a bit yet. And nope, how can anyone settle down within 10 days after he moved abroad and left everything behind that he was used to the last decade? Real life has got nothing to do with social media presentation. Don’t take others or yourself too seriously. Social media is a highlight reel. The people you follow are not posting photos of their most anxiety-ridden moments, they are not posting #nomakeup photos after a long night at work. You don’t see whose child is failing in school, or whose boyfriend has just broken their heart. You see the moments that are filtered for consumption and that you are meant to see. We’re all messy, flawed human beings and nothing will ever change that, regardless of what our perfectly curated Instagram feed may argue. Whenever you’re feeling envy or a gnawing sense that somebody’s life is perfect and yours is just not, remember that social media rarely, if ever, shows the whole picture. Truth be told, I have been working day and night the past days. I haven’t settled in, I haven’t found the perfect daily routine yet. I am struggling to keep my long-distance relationship alive even though we have been together for nearly a year soon. Commuting between Germany and Indonesia to ensure our relationship will survive this, is exhausting and it costs a lot of money. I miss my friends and my family in Germany loads - many tears have been shed behind closed doors. Life is a struggle and we have to embrace that it is. Nothing worth living for comes easy. In fact, chasing your biggest dreams is the most frightening thing you can possibly do. But - oh my - what a feeling it will be, once everything pays off.