When I was in MN last weekend, I was meeting a lot of new people at once, especially my best friend’s boyfriend’s family.
I was talking to one of his aunts, and as she left and said goodbye, she said something along the lines of: “I like you. You’re real. Like a real chick, and I dig that.” She was also the one that complimented me on my voice. And it stuck, because I now get that compliment often, especially as I’ve gotten older, but I always find it funny when someone says they like my voice. Because it’s something I never really hear, ya know? You live with your own voice for so long and all I know is that I hate hearing it on videos or in recordings 😂
But anyways, when she told me I was real, my heart expanded x10. It was such a raw compliment, probably one of the nicest things someone has ever said to me. And I’ve never considered myself a “real chick.” I guess I’ve never even thought about that as a way to describe someone. But once she said it, it made sense, and it made me feel really happy.
Now, looking back, I find little connections related to that comment: “real.” When I look at my life, “real” is a common theme. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I’m not afraid to tell the world how I’m feeling or share something kind of personal. I just don’t feel like I have anything to hide, and I’m sure you can tell that by my IG posts. I have a hard time acting “happy” when something is wrong and people often know quickly if something is bothering me. I also have a really hard time getting to know someone, or considering someone a good friend, unless they tell me something REAL about themselves. I don’t like surface, chatty, small talk. Tell me something deep, tell me something about your life that has defined who you are today. Tell me your deepest fear or your greatest love. Without knowing those things, I feel a lack of connection. This happened often in college. You have those “party” friends you know? But you don’t know much about them as a PERSON. Like who are they? I always had a hard time connecting on such a surface level like that. If you look at my current friend group, I consider the people in my close circle my BEST FRIENDS. [cont. in comments]