Cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort experienced when holding two conflicting thoughts. It occurs in situations where a person is presented with facts that contradict that person’s self-image, attitudes, beliefs or behaviors. ..
We often experience cognitive dissonance with a feeling of defensiveness and look to fix the dissonance by further justifying our own beliefs, attitudes, or behaviors rather than submitting to the information being given to us. When we should drop our guard and open our mind to new information we instead throw up our guard and further anchor in our flawed perspective. ..
During a recent conversation this is exactly what I did. After writing my thoughts around the conversation down I later realized how closed minded I had been and how wrong I was. ..
I was really embarrassed actually because I like to think of myself as an open minded and logical person. I don’t often reflect on conversations with writing and so it made me wonder how often I do this without realizing it. ..
Being wrong doesn’t feel very good, and we’ll often fight hard to prove that we’re not. But being humble is crucial to learning and growth. The ability to drop the ego and be agile in our thinking is a skill necessary to learning. The faster we can learn, the better off we are. Ideas should be considered for their meritocracy not for how they make us feel. I want to learn to enjoy being wrong because it means I’m learning and growing and expanding my knowledge. That’s a task which is easier said than done because of the pride at play but I welcome the challenge.