Last week I was asked by @.medics to talk at their "success as a muslim medic" event. Honestly, I find it really awkward to talk about myself, my career and the mere mention of the words "my successes" makes me cringe. But this is not what this post is about
Amongst other things, a lot of the young muslim women were concerned about one thing in particular "can i get married as a muslim woman doctor?!" It made me so sad that these hard working, talented young women thought they were not worthy of whatever they sought, because of the societal pressuresthat come with beinga brown muslim career woman.
I spend so much of my time fighting the hidden misogyny that riddles the asian community. Many a times I am approached my muslim mothers wanting me to help their daughters get into medicine, to champion them and to inspire them. Yet, when these same women ask me to introcued them to potential partners for their sons, they are adamant that their sons not marry a doctor. "How will she look after my son, who will cook, clean and raise the children ?!!" Let me get this straight. You want your daughters to be me, yet I am not good enough for your son?!! Seriously, some people need a wake up call and we meed to challenege the double standards. I ask these mothers; What is your son bringing to the table? Can he cook? clean? Is he a man that i want my children to look up to be? No? Then you and the Y chromosome you raised can pipe down
It is 2018 and muslim women are shattering sterortypes across the globe. There is no shortage of succesful muslims to inspire and motivate the women of today. We are doctors, teachers, architects, journalists, artists and so much more
My only advice to young women wanting careers is dont let society define your worth. Shine as bright and as firecly as you can. Focus on being good and doing good and good will find its way to you.