But your soulmate is really this: the person who brings out your inner child. The person who makes you feel so truly safe that the kid inside you can come out. The person who makes you cry again, who makes you more yourself because you’re with them. That is your soulmate.
Your inner child is, of course, who you really are. It is the person who you were before the world damaged and conditioned you, before you learned and had to unlearn how to be a person and then evolve into who you really are. Your inner child is the one throwing tantrums to get your attention, the one who is still fearless enough to hope, the one who is happy for no reason.
And when I really think about it, when I really look back on my life, that has consistently been the perfect measure of the chemistry + compatibility equation: how much like my childhood self someone made me feel.