Trigger ⚠️: Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
There is so much beauty, and so much pain, in this world. Last night I read about a young man, 20 years of age, shot to death in his car. He was an artist, a poet, an inspiration to some, and he was also a violent, cruel abuser of women. He did unspeakably things to the mother of his child, and was spun up to fame while awaiting trial.
His music spoke to many. He said he wanted to make the world a better place for other kids with depression.
Like many other abusers, his own childhood had been full of pain and neglect. When confronted, he threatened his critics with violent threats of rape and murder. He was also the victim of systematic racism and oppression, which ultimately was a part of his death.
He was a child. Hurt, angry, deeply depressed, and suddenly wildly famous and wealthy.
I often think about why young men abuse. Why they rape, why they beat, and why the world we’ve created doesn’t teach them that these things are unacceptable. About how popular culture in many ways encourages these actions in both subliminal and obvious ways.
We can do better. We need to do better. We need to teach young men nonviolent ways of expressing anger, and make domestic violence and rape unthinkable. We need to stop treating the lives of young black men as expendable. We need to provide safe outlets for people that are struggling with depression and other mental health issues.
I don’t have the answers and I don’t pretend to. But I know that the only only way we’ll get anywhere is to have this discussion, and to begin changing the way that society looks at mental health awareness, violence against women, AND the way we treat young black men. #XXXtentacion #RefusetoAbuse