So this is a continuation of our series on the lessons I learnt from Russia 2018:
Lesson 3: Have a personal definition of success and set high targets for yourself. Set a success goal and make it higher than the ones usually accepted. I learnt this from the last match France played with Croatia. I dunno, maybe because those guys have seen Croatia’s performance up until then, I have a strong feeling those France guys came for a kill. From the way they played the match right up to the very end, still hungry for goals, it seemed to me that they had decided to give Croatia 3 to nil, however that comes. Means that it doesn’t matter how many goals Croatia scores, they will be three goals ahead and it would have been so if not for that gift of a goal (according to the commentator) they gave Croatia.
So to us, they were winning and rightfully so, with 2 to nil but in thier mind, they still had one more goal or even more, to score. Success for them meant something higher than 2 to nil and the fact that they haven’t achieved it kept them playing with determined passion to the very end. At a time when most teams will up their defence to secure their winning, after all they were 2 goals ahead and that was okay, France was busy still chasing goals in addition to putting up defence. The criteria for success here is to ensure you stay ahead. The criteria for THEIR own success was stay very well ahead by scoring more goals and that standard kept them going.
So I ask you my dear reader, what standard have you set your success to? In your marriage, what does success mean to you? You know, because the world is full of divorces now, seeing a marriage clock 5, 10 years or more is a great success story and people who stay together this long are celebrated and rightfully so. But beyond that standard of success, how is your marriage within? Are you working to sustain the spark or are you just patching things up to keep it going? In that area of your life, what is your definition of success?