“annie, you may live your life any way that you want to, but never lie.”
my father taught me that integrity in love is a commitment to live your life as if your partner could be present for everything that you do. it sounds intrusive, but try it. i promise you, when you shift your life in this way as a commitment to the person you love and what you are building together, you find so much joy in doing good, so much love behind your choices, even if you’re not always getting what you want first. at the end of the day, you are. you win. you are living and breathing to do the right thing.
so you do it.
this is how you lay the foundation of trust and honesty in a relationship.
i invite you next time you question your own integrity, how many excuses, blame, pride, and rightness are wrapped up into your list of reasons why you are acting a certain way. look inside for the answer. the only one responsible for your integrity is you, but the best part about that is that your heart already knows your truth. i hope you find comfort in that, even if it means owning up to something. or letting go.