THE GIFT OF COMPARISON:
This is my friend Hannah. The first time I met Hannah was when she led a movement portion of a guided meditation I attended. She is an incredible dancer with total confidence in her body. (At least, I assume she has total confidence...) I remember feeling completely intimidated by how beautiful she is. You know the drill—all the comparisons. Where she had grace, I was tripping. Where she was self assured, I felt like a stranger in my own body. Her abs, my abs, blah blah blah. When I first met her, she intimidated me because she is so beautiful. Hannah and I are close friends now, and a funny thing has happened. Instead of feeling terrible that I don’t measure up and comparing myself to her, being around her has shown me HOW to love my body. Spending time with her has created experiences where I dance and move. By being herself, she has shown me how to be more myself. During this adventure in Moab, I started talking about how much I hate it when people tell me I intimidate them because it makes me feel like I have to be different than I want to be so I don’t trigger other people’s insecurities. She immediately knew what I was talking about. She expressed how often she feels like she needs to play small because of the way people react to her. (@alchemy_studiosslc chime in if I got that wrong-ha!) I realized that I was experiencing Hannah in the same way that some people experience me (although in my case, it’s not about my elegance in movement 😬🤷🏻♀️) For me, this is one of the hardest parts about being totally myself. Sometimes in life, when we are our brightest, boldest selves, people avoid us because they can’t handle the comparisons they are making. We all do it to each other for different reasons. It can be lonely to be authentic, because people who truly understand you can be few and far between. I have learned that by managing the comparisons and refusing to isolate myself from people who intimidate me, I can actually start to capture traits I admire. My intimidating friends are also my teachers, and they teach me to notice and overcome all the places where I am holding myself back. Be you, and invite people to rise to the occasion!